Why isn’t she replying?


October 3, 2016

words of wisdom

screen-shot-2016-10-03-at-11-14-39-am   I texted, she read my message and didn’t reply! Why? Many a time men are left dumbfounded by a chilling lack of response from girls they try to seek out. This often strikes our egos right in the nuts. Why is this happening? Here are 4 reasons:

1. Bad Opening line/ First impression

Firstly, you didn’t open the conversation in a manner that calls for a response. How you start or your first impression sets the tone for later.  Guys are probably texting her all day and most of them will start with ‘hi’ and ‘hello’. That’s just not going to cut it. ‘Hi’s’ and ‘hellos’ are very boring conversation starters. Aren’t they? Start with something more appealing. You yourself can think of something that will be more exciting than ‘hi’. I have actually tried the line, “you look familiar, are you from…” and have received way more success in getting responses. Anything interesting or anything that makes her think will do.

2. Too Serious Too Fast

Secondly, you got really serious, real fast! Often times, when we are attracted to a girl, we tend to head straight in the direction of dating. Women don’t like when we come on too strong. Not too long ago, I used to head too quickly in that direction. From the first conversation I used to start talking about romance, ambition and relationships. Most women in the world of dating assess this type of behaviour as a sign of desperation. Don’t get me wrong, women like being chased but not in such a fast paced manner.

3. You are just like the ‘others’

Thirdly, you don’t stand out enough! Most guys seeking a woman’s love would: kiss her ass, reply in paragraphs, over compliment her, be too open, act cheesy, use too many emoticons and most of all act desperate. This is the single most important thing to avoid when trying to get with a girl. AVOID FITTING IN! When something is too familiar we tend to take it for granted. Every woman likes something new and unfamiliar, something mysterious, something hard to own and something that is in control of their life.

4. She is busy

Fourthly, she is genuinely BUSY! Yes, women get busy too. They have lives too, responsibilities too. Sometimes we should be considerate and not bombard them. It is advisable to message at convenient times. How would you know this? There is no sure-fire way to know, but usually when she is off from work.


How can we stop it? The reasons highlighted above are the real reasons you aren’t getting responses most of the time. Also, never ask why she isn’t responding. Asking would usually result in you getting a nonsense response eg. I didn’t receive your message or my phone isn’t working. Avoid the pitfalls highlighted above and you will start experiencing more success as it pertains to getting replies from the women you desire. Do what is required and get what you desire.